Are these keeping you away?

Many people want to make a positive difference in a young person's life, but misconceptions about being a Big Brother or Big Sister keep them from signing up as volunteers.

Here is a list of common misconceptions and the facts that topple them:

Not true. In reality, they serve as mentors or role models to children who need this positive influence in their lives. Our children waiting for a match range in age from six to 15 and many come from lone-parent families. However, Big Brothers and Big Sisters don't join these families, nor do they assume the same extent of responsibility a parent would.

Wrong. "There is an opportunity that can fit everyone's schedule, whether they have two hours a week or two hours a month," says Jon Braithwaite, Executive Director of Niagara Falls Big Brothers Big Sisters. See "A program for everyone" on page 4 for details on our programs, which vary widely in how many volunteer hours are expected and over what time period. Hint: One-to-one mentoring isn't the only choice.

Not so. Big Brothers Big Sisters encourages low- and no-cost activities and can help you with ideas if you're stumped.

Another myth. To be a Big Brother, you don't need to be Superman. To be a Big Sister, you don't need to be Superwoman. People often put themselves under too much pressure out of fear they won't measure up. Yet the desire to make a difference is a mentor's most important trait. "We're looking for people who want to make a positive difference in the lives of children, period," Braithwaite says.

Actually, seniors make great mentors and we'd love to have more of them. If you're a willing senior but travel plans or health concerns are standing in the way, please let us know. We'll be glad to discuss your needs and find a mentoring opportunity that suits you. Tip: We often hear from our older volunteers that mentoring helps keep them young.

What most defines our children is not that they are troubled, but rather, that they are eager. Eager to have a Big Brother or Big Sister walk through the brave red door of their hearts and lives. Eager to do fun, and perhaps new things with their Big Brother or Big Sister. Eager to have someone to talk to, joke around with and simply "be" with. Support mechanisms are in place to assist, should problems arise, but in most cases, proper screening and matching procedures help ensure that our matches go smoothly.

Are you ready to find out more? Contact your local agency today!